Those Three Words




Do you notice how people are expected to say those three words as far as they are in a relationship whether they mean it or not? People just want to hear it, and hey! I am not just talking about the ladies based on popular notion , I am talking men too, even though some of them deny the existence of that subconscious craving.



It is not out of the ordinary that we feel that we deserve to be loved. It probably makes us feel better, I feel it is unrealistic and shouldn't be compulsory but it sure is necessary. When you don't understand it, don't believe it, don't feel it, you shouldn't say it, no matter the the circumstance.

Some people who say it, don't actually mean it. Some don't understand it, and others say it because they feel pressure from their partner, either verbally or unspoken, neglecting the implication of their actions.

First of all, you are not being truthful to yourself and most importantly, those three words are comforting to those who actually believe it and saying it simply means that they can give you some percentage of their trust.

I really don't see anything wrong in "I care about you" at the end of a phone conversation, knowing very well that you mean it rather than "I love you" which has obviously become a clichè.

We should understand that love grows or dies and it becomes stronger or weaker as you spend time with your partner/spouse and it is the things he or she does, the experiences you have shared, the level of respect and commitment you both have that determines the strength of your love. And as for "love at first sight", that would be a topic for another day.
Personally, I don't believe it is even possible. What on earth would the so proclaimed love be based on, when you do3n't even know this person? ( love has a premise).
I say it is attraction at first sight before love. (correct me if I am wrong, lol).

If everyone is conscious of the truth that by what we say, we either build or destroy relationships / friendships / marriages.
If everyone is aware of the level of mistrust we create in the minds of people we have come across.
If everyone is not just outright selfish, self absorbed and self - seeking.
We just might have some goodness, kindness and empathy left to tap from and people might have the courage to still have faith in humanity.

It doesn't have to be about YOU all the time!

Have a fabulous weekend.

Love,
Chidimma

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